These words have been running through my being since my (exhausting)therapy session last night...
Little girls (children) don't deserve to be teased till they cry.
Little girls (children) don't deserve to have adults pretend to put them head first in the trash can.
Little girls (children) don't deserve to have to try to act tough when a "huge" adult catches them and acts like they will stick them headfirst in a dirty trash can when deep down they are terrified because she (they ) don't know how they will get out because the trashcan is as tall as her (them).
Little girls (children) don't deserve to have things that are important to them taken away by an angry adult as punishment.
Little girls (children) don't deserve to be promised a treat only to have the adult in "fun" hold the item just out of reach till they cry.
Little girls (children) don't deserve to be held helpless in the strong arms of an adult 3x their size and tickled till they cry despite their pleas to the adult to stop.
Just imagine the helplessness, the fear, the terror, the dread, of the child caught in the arms of an adult who does things for "fun" ...
Doesn't it make the adult look sadistic?
Little girls (children) deserve to feel safe.
Little girls (children) deserve to be respected.
Little girls (children) deserve to be listened to when they say no.
Little girls (children) deserve to have bodily autonomy.
Little girls (children) deserve to have treats untainted with teasing or any other thing that could cause unpleasant feelings.
Little girls (children) deserve to have a safe person to hold them, protect them, and nurture them.
Little girls (children) deserve to be loved.
These things are crucial for the wellbeing of the child and their growth into a mature adult.
So many of us did not have that.
And never will.
It is now up to us to create our safe spaces. To find our support systems. To heal to the best of our ability to heal the damage done in our tender formative years.
But often that journey is excruciatingly painful and exhausting...at least we are not alone even tho it feels so at times...
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